Life on Marriage

April 10, 2015 1140hrs.lt.

I have a colleague in the office, she just recently joined our team last January 2015.

She was actually excited on the new things and was amazed by how much salary she gets compared to her situation back to her home country where her struggle was times three. She then shared that her happiness has regained as she can provide all her wants now and even managed to support her family without the stress of budgeting unlike her income.

Her job indeed pays more than she can think of however as we get to our mid conversation she was in agony on how to persuade his husband as she wants to bring her spouse here so he could realize that there is more life waiting for him than on that small Island they’re currently exist in and that the opportunity was unlimited if one is hardworking.

Unfortunately, the Husband was able to see the definition of life back home. He is currently the Chief Fire Man personnel and all their Barangay look up to him with kind & respect. He explained to her OFW wife that our earnings are sufficient enough to meet the daily needs with consideration to their two sons who’s in elementary. He continued, it would be much happier if she will come home and be with them to make a simple life.

The OFW wife was upset hearing it from her husband which she previously recalls that it was completely different from the thought he said before which she mentioned that he have a bigger dreams than staying in their island and that he doesn't want to settle for less.

I was of course was just listening to her sentiments, I could see that she was excited with the new environment she saw was best suited for her needs. Here, Money is Power. You could buy the things that you want if you have this kind of Power. You can pamper yourself and get much more options.

Until she get over and have satisfied enough from the material things this land has to offer. I could for sure see that she will get to what her husband has seen in the Island that made him stay.

In life we need to ask ourselves what is the most important thing to us. We should figure out if the action that we are doing is similar to our beliefs. Struggle/Stress arise when the thought that we have is different to what we do.

In Marriage, both people who have come in front of god had promised the internal commitment of Love for each other through whatever problem it may arise as they go through with life. We need to remind ourselves as time crouch in manner that we don’t expect until it’s too late.

RDC X

4AM Mind

Its January 2nd of 2015, most people had their first selfie and photos shared on facebook with a caption 'positive vibe for 2015'. People have that usual rush of good expectation. They say 2015 would their year and this is the first blank page of 365 book page of their blah blah blah.. Nonsense, its always fairy tale to think of the future.

I dont hate the world by saying that, but I want to let people realize everything you've done last 2014 is connected today. You grew up today because you've learn a lot yesterday. Its not that last year has been erased and that you can clean up everything. If you have been  pregnant last year you need to realize what would be next to this chapter.

More babies to come each year? 

Be more responsible now that its 2015. 

I cannot give advice on each of your lives. You need to figure it out.

We have this usual cycle.. Go to school, make a good grades, go to college afterwhich find a decent job create your own family.. More happy memories then die. Not a blissful ending but its the usual life cycle. I dont say this because its a pattern. I'm saying we could change  it the way we wanted. Just like a new resto called create your own pizza. (Wait just to let you know, I am not endorsing or anything).

Most of my generation are on their early stage of 20's. Its on a stage of experiment, most college friends try to brag their office, the benefits theyre in to, the first pay check, their newly furnish house etcetera etcetera.. Its usual.. This is also the time that you create your foundation for the future. This is not the time to party, get laid or whatever but I guess most people just want to enjoy life. Later on they willl just realize thing and then pacify their self that it happens 'i dont regret it' its bullsh*t. You know, the truth is..its not enjoyable that you dont have money, that you can't afford what you want, that you need to work extra hours to earn cash, that if you loose your job your nowhere to go. Everything is unstable. Now, start to create your stronghold foundation. 

Of coarse, I know that you are expecting more cash on this 2015. Let me ask, have you done anything to start earning? Maybe youre thinking that you have a great job. This will not make you rich. You dont own the company to relax but just a mere employee. (My apology for being to rash). To give you a hint, you need to connect where the money goes. I dont mean that you rob a bank, think more highly you dont need to push someone to give you things. You can make them give it to you at ease. Its all in your mind.

Dont be afraid. Don't be afraid that people may hate you for going on to the current. Its trial and error. There is no perfect formula but an open personality can start to built your mind set.

To end this insanity of mine, let 2015 be the execution of what you have started last 2014. Claim to make things yours at this year. Break the usual routine. Think of your goals. What you want in life? Get it.